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Who Am I?

“Who Am I?”


In creating his psychosocial integration theory, psychologist, Erik Erikson, believed we dealt with this existential question between the ages of 13-19.  


While the questions may begin in adolescence, unquestionably, the answers come much later, if, ever, at all?


At 46, an age where Erikson believes my fundamental question is, “Does My Life Count?” While it’s a question at the forefront of my mind, it sits alongside “Who The Hell Am !?”


My marriage didn’t have the healthiest of starts. In another universe, Liza would have left me and lived happily ever after. I didn’t realise it back then, but I was a boy living in a man’s body. Liza stuck with me because she felt that inside of this boy was a beautiful man waiting to emerge. 


As a result of continually assessing whether I am operating above (presence) or below (drama) the line and changing my energetic frequency in response to the answer, the man is the dominant force. We rarely see the boy. 


My increased awareness and attention to my location along the line of presence and drama helps me understand who I am, and that’s a critical step towards building a resilient relationship. 


Take 'conflict' as an example.


The greater my awareness of operating from presence or drama (who I am), the likelier I can navigate conflict consciously. If I consistently show up below the line (a consequence of not knowing who I am), I am less capable of managing conflict from a place of lovingkindness.


If you want to know who you are, let us help you. 


At 1000 Days Sober, we’re all enrolled in this quest, and it's much more fun doing it together. 


Who Am I? is one of four fundamental questions that Neale Donald Walsch believes hold the keys to a beautiful life. Find out what the other three are by watching the video below.


Much love.






PS: If you want to watch the full interview with Neale, follow this link.


PPS: If you want to learn more about navigating conflict consciously, then check out my new free guide, 'The Relationships Secret Bible: The Essence from 8 Relationship Advice Books That Will Change Your Life'.