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It Has Gone Wayward, Again


You wake up in the morning feeling unmotivated. Something's not quite right. You have checked your phone, emails, and every update you can to distract yourself from feeling miserable.

Then, you remember what happened last night. The wall preventing you from having this immense craving of having that one sip has now shattered. Immediately, you felt guilt, shame, and extreme frustration. How did it happen all in just one night? 

You, then, recalled all your decisions leading to this destructive behaviour. “Drinking alcohol isn’t too bad,” you thought. “Quitting drinking is just easy; you have done it for almost 30 days now.” This is where all had started to fall apart-- you, just being contented in the idea of you quitting.

In change talk, you have recognized how the commitment and strong initiative to translate your plan into achievable actions is the core of your changing behaviour. Saying you are going to quit finally should always be supplemented with your actions.

Mobilizing yourself to achieve a small change every day is more realistic than deciding to quit drinking all of a sudden without planning to actually do it. Stopping the actions you used to accommodate your change talk will certainly lead to you using sustain talk.

If these actions do not accommodate your cognition, you will begin to stop doing actions allowing you to be sober. And so, the cycle of alcoholism will now repeat. You will continuously succumb to a maladaptive and recurrent pattern of drinking alcohol.

One STRIVER shares her perception of how her change talk has gone wayward at The STRIVE Method For Addictions: Thought Phase.

She commented, “I have an alarm on my phone which brings up my affirmations--I was saying them out loud, this has fallen by the wayside recently. Time to bring them back in and shout them out loud, feeling it in every detail in every cell of my power pose…”

Positive outcomes after you engage yourself in a change talk should always be accompanied by actions. It should be consistent as possible. If you have stopped working, your change talk will certainly shift to a sustained talk. And this leads to drinking, again.

So how do you empower your change talk?