The 1000 Days Sober Blog
Blog Posts From 1000 Days Sober
How to take a giant step towards controlling alcohol without taking...
It only cost $50. My wife, Liza, asked me to join her. It was another...
May 21, 2021
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Why beginners struggle with alcohol cravings...
I have this client. Let's called him Julian. Julian recently celebrated...
May 20, 2021
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I Didn't Have VD, Honest...
Did you know that there is a VD clinic in Ayia Napa? Luckily there is, and even luckier,...
May 19, 2021
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How New Order Helped me Quit Alcohol
I like New Order, who doesn’t right? I love 'Blue Monday'. But it...
May 19, 2021
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How to experience anxiety without reaching for the bottle
My daughter Zia’s skipping along the pavement, looking every inch the perfect Dorothy Gale ...
May 04, 2021
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The Question: “What will I do when I lose my friends once I stop dr...
Thomas asks, “What will I do when I lose my friends once I stop drinking alcohol?&r...
Apr 26, 2021
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Emotions & Self-Awareness
As a drinker, I had limited self-awareness. If the reverse were true, I would not have been a d...
Apr 22, 2021
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Sunk Costs
At times during the end of my railway career, I felt like a leper. When I walked into a room, p...
Apr 21, 2021
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It Has Gone Wayward, Again
You wake up in the morning feeling unmotivated. Something's not quite right. You have che...
Apr 07, 2021
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Finding A Deeper Meaning And Purpose Through Helping Others
During our darkest times, we struggle to find meaning in our existence. And every day, we...
Apr 06, 2021
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Myself In The Mirror
Look at yourself in the mirror. Reflect on your image. What do you see? Do...
Apr 02, 2021
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Chasing Rainbows And Unicorns
Chasing rainbows and unicorns is a child’s dream. You know unicorns are pretty des...
Apr 01, 2021
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Becoming A Diamond
“Diamonds are made under pressure,” says Caroline Buchanan. And you’ve probab...
Mar 31, 2021
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The Small Things
Now that you’ve courageously accepted perfectionism as a hindrance to your progression, i...
Mar 23, 2021
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An Invisible Problem
We all have to be drunk in something to get us going in life--be it alcohol, gambling, work, th...
Mar 23, 2021
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First Step of Letting Go of Perfectionism
It started like this: you had the idea of being detached from the habit you are genuinely aware...
Mar 23, 2021
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Internal Pressure
Sometimes, even if you attempt to change, there will always be that immense feeling of relievin...
Mar 23, 2021
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The Awareness Trap
You just want control of yourself again, and having this little conversation with yourself isn&...
Mar 23, 2021
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Who is Pressuring You to Drink Alcohol?
Sometimes, even if you try to genuinely change, there will always be that immense feeling of re...
Mar 16, 2021
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Selfish
Selfish How different would life be if we took the view that everyone came out of the womb des...
Mar 12, 2021
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Kids
It's my turn to take Zia to bed, and as is standard, she wants her Mum. Immediately, she trigg...
Mar 11, 2021
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Alienation
Thomas feels like an outsider in his family home. The children don't bother him, and hi...
Mar 10, 2021
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Who Am I?
“Who Am I?” In creating his psychosocial integration theory, psychologist,...
Mar 08, 2021
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Irony
I recently joined an online course and had to introduce myself. I told the group I helpe...
Mar 06, 2021
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Life Sucks
You can inhale the perfume of a red rose, or you can burn it. Life’s what you make it. ...
Mar 05, 2021
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The Cleaner
Johann Hari told Sam Harris that Gallup revealed approx. 80% of Americans didn’t like t...
Mar 04, 2021
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Cake
I have never baked a cake. Baking a cake = hard work. I don’t eat cake these ...
Mar 02, 2021
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In It
Laurie is a 1000 Days Sober coach.I remember she once posted this in the forum. "Here in thi...
Mar 01, 2021
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Exhaustion
Another fantastic poem by Rupi Kaur in her collection The Sun and Her Flowers."This place mak...
Feb 05, 2021
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Craters
Connor has a hole in his heart. It hasn’t stopped him turning into a c...
Feb 04, 2021
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Judgments
My sweaty back itches against the roughed up wood of the garage door. The sun is tickling m...
Feb 03, 2021
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Twelve
As I listen to Walk Like an Egyptian by The Bangles, I crack my knuckles, romanticise about...
Feb 02, 2021
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The Lock-Up
I have ‘stuff’ in a lock-up in Cardiff. It could go the way of Notre Dame...
Jan 11, 2021
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The Leaky Tap
I heard the sound of running water gushing from the tap behind me. I shook my...
Jan 11, 2021
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Not Skid Row
The day I led Jude through Skid Row was not an auspicious moment. I heard his mother screaming ...
Jan 11, 2021
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The Toothbrush
How could I forget to brush my teeth? I'm 45. I think? Maybe that...
Jan 06, 2021
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Perspective
There’s an air of desperation when it comes to mulling over a period before tak...
Jan 02, 2021
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Traffic Lights
A woman with three children stands at the edge of the kerb. The light is red. For a s...
Dec 21, 2020
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The Arena
“It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man s...
Dec 12, 2020
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Enabling
There's a scene in the 'Queen's Gambit,' where Beth and her stepmother, Alma, are in a hotel ro...
Dec 02, 2020
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Without awareness, there is no free choice
I played football on Sunday mornings and then went to the pub to drink all day, before stumblin...
Oct 13, 2020
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Failure
The STRIVE Method: Failure Over the next few months, you will receive a series of articles sha...
Oct 12, 2020
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Harry The Hummingbird
The STRIVE Method: Harry The Hummingbird Over the next few months, you will receive a series o...
Oct 06, 2020
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Reality
I planned to spend time with my cousin on Friday night; then on Saturday, he would drive me into ...
Sep 24, 2020
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Greyscale
Game of Thrones fans will remember Ser Jorah Mormont picking up a greyscale infection...
Sep 09, 2020
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A Resistance Reversal
The universe is vast, and somewhere, deep inside, you’ll find a Dry Martini with a Tw...
Sep 03, 2020
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Alcoholism is an Invisible, Violent and Dominant Belief System
In 1946, E. M. Jellinik, the man credited with naming Alcoholism as a disease, ...
Sep 02, 2020
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The Suffering Choice
Two people, working for the same company, lose their job on the same day. It’s an u...
Aug 15, 2020
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The Bell and the Blackbird
I’m on the phone to Jude telling him that my life is shifting in ways that I can’t ...
Aug 12, 2020
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Finishing Things
Neil Gaiman’s Masterclass on creative writing is brilliant, and one of the thin...
Jul 27, 2020
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Learn to Value Yourself
"Let alcohol in, and often, procrastination follows. If you want to shut the door, then l...
Jul 22, 2020
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The Fire
I sit on the tube imagining a bomb exploding. Reaper-like flames claw at my Zia. A fingerna...
Jul 16, 2020
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Sugar-Free Poison
I’m in the lift in the ARIA Resort in Las Vegas. Two guys join me, both dr...
Jul 13, 2020
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Nickel The Pig
Nickel is a ceramic pig. Zia dropped him a few times (not the smartest gift for a 3-ye...
Jul 13, 2020
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Expectations
I get it. Lowering your expectations is a cracking way to mitigate the failure fall.&n...
Jul 07, 2020
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The Gods
I used to love visiting restaurants. Today, it's excruciating. I catch myself forcing my ...
Jul 06, 2020
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Prosperity
Something has clicked. It's clicked before. It will click again. While it's ...
Jul 06, 2020
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The Only Way Out is Through
After a bike ride that’s taken him less than four hours to travel 50-miles, Tony wonder...
Jul 18, 2019
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