The Secrets of Pleasure: A Conversation with Heidi Revay


As the world develops, societies get more complicated. The number of rules we follow increases. These rules create a world where our pleasures are repressed and inhibited. We may start to crave freedom, seeking to experience pleasure without knowing how and when to start. Before acting on it, we must first understand what pleasure is.

In today’s episode, we look at various aspects of pleasure with sexuality and intimacy coach Heidi Revay. You will realise that pleasure does not equate to materialism. Neither is it only about sex — there is pleasure in doing things we enjoy. Heidi talks about how to find pleasure in our acts, along with the effects of alcohol on them. Finally, she discusses how these all connect to our sense of validation and self-worth.

Despite what other people think, your pleasure is for you alone to enjoy. If you want to learn the best conscious pleasure practices, tune in to this episode!

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DISCOVER how alcohol affects our sense of self. 


FIND OUT how to love yourself and deal with pent-up sexual energy.


LEARN about the different aspects of pleasure.

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I like to think of pleasure as what makes you feel good, not, in a way, materialistically or superficially, but what are the ways that you experience pleasure”?

What’s that threshold that makes you good enough? Is it validation? Does it come back to the amount of validation or praise you get for XYZ? Is that what makes you good enough”?

“Those things that you develop in childhood to get approval, it’s either rebelling, withdrawing or acquiesce . . . so much of it is that people-pleasing aspect too, like I had to people please in order to get the love and attention I needed”.

How can we bring more awareness to the drinking and drugs so that we can be more conscious and be able to honour our boundaries? . . .  When you’re mixing alcohol with that, how do you honour your boundaries? How do you even know what they are"?

The reason that we all become addicted to something is that we live in a life of scarcity”.

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About Heidi


Heidi Revay is a sexuality and intimacy coach, supporting ambitious people who want to strengthen their connection to their bodies and explore their desires. She studied Layla Martin’s VITA method for aspiring leaders in Sex, Love & Relationships to satisfy her long curiosity on her sexual yearnings.

As the eldest of five children and the only girl, she developed female leadership at a young age. Now, she runs a coaching business empowering women to reclaim their sexuality and have confidence in themselves.

You may connect with her through her email or on Instagram. Learn more about her work by visiting her website.

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